18 Ways to Improve 您r Body Language

There is no specific advice on how to use 您r body language.

What 您 do might be interpreted in several ways, depending on the setting 和 who 您 are talking to. 您'与老板交谈时与使用女孩/男友交谈时,可能会希望使用不同的肢体语言're interested in.

These are some common interpretations of body language 和 often more effective ways to communicate with 您r body.

First, to change 您r body language 您 must be aware of 您r body language. Notice how 您 sit, how 您 stand, how 您 use 您 hands 和 legs, what 您 do 与某人交谈时。

您可能想在镜子前练习。是的,这似乎很愚蠢,但没人在看着你。这将为您提供关于您如何看待他人的良好反馈,并使您有机会在踏出世界之前进行一些练习。

另一个技巧是闭上眼睛,想象一下如何站立和坐着,以感到自信,开放和放松,或者想交流的内容。看到自己像自己的那个版本一样移动。然后尝试一下。

您可能还需要观察朋友,榜样,电影明星或其他您认为具有良好肢体语言的人。观察他们做什么,而你却没有。从不同的人那里拿走您喜欢的点点滴滴。尝试使用可以向他们学习的内容。

Some of these tips might seem like 您 are faking something. But fake it til 您 make it is a useful way to learn something new. And remember, feelings work backwards too.

如果您微笑多一点,您会感到更快乐。如果您坐直,您会感到精力充沛且掌控一切。如果放慢脚步,您会感到镇定。您的感觉实际上会增强您的新行为,而怪异的感觉会消失。

In the beginning easy it's to exaggerate 您r body language. 您 might sit with 您r legs almost ridiculously far apart or sit up straight in a tense pose all the time. That's OK.

And people aren't looking as much as 您 think, 他们正在担心自己的问题. Just play around a bit, practice 和 monitor 您rself to find a comfortable balance.

1. Don't cross 您r arms or legs.

您 have probably already heard 您 shouldn't cross 您r arms as it might make 您 seem defensive or guarded. This goes for 您r legs too. Keep 您r arms 和 legs open.

2.保持眼神交流,但不要凝视。

If there are several people 您 are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection 和 see if they are listening.

保持过多的目光接触可能会使人感到不适。不进行眼神交流可能会使您显得不安全。如果您不习惯眼神交流,一开始可能会感到有些难受或恐惧,但是继续努力,您会习惯的。

3.不要害怕占用一些空间。

Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with 您r legs apart a bit signals self-confidence 和 that 您 are comfortable in 您r own skin.

4. Relax 您r shoulders. 

当您感到紧张时,肩膀上的紧张感很容易消失。他们可能会向前移动一点。尝试放松。尝试稍微摇晃肩膀,然后稍微向后移动,以放松身体。

5.他们说话时点点头。

Nod once in a while to signal that 您 are listening. But don't overdo it 和 peck like Woody Woodpecker.

6.不要懒散,坐直。

但是要放松,不要太紧张。

7.精益,但不要太多。

如果您想表明您对某人在说什么感兴趣,请倾向于说话的人。如果您想表明自己对自己有信心,请放松一点。

But don't lean in too much or 您 might seem needy 和 desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or 您 might seem arrogant 和 distant.

8.微笑和大笑。

放轻松一点,不要太在意自己。有人说些有趣的话时,请放松一点,微笑和大笑。如果您看起来是一个积极的人,人们会更倾向于听您的话。

但是,请不要成为第一个嘲笑自己的笑话的人,这会让您显得紧张又有需要。当您被介绍给某人时微笑,但不要在脸上贴上微笑,您似乎会变得不真诚。

9. Don't touch 您r face.

It might make 您 seem nervous 和 can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.

10. Keep 您r head up.

Don't keep 您r eyes on the ground, it might make 您 seem 不安全,有点失落. Keep 您r head up straight 和 您r eyes towards the horizon.

11.放慢一点。

This goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes 您 seem more calm 和 confident, it will also make 您 feel less stressed.

If someone addresses 您, don't snap 您r neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.

12.不要坐立不安。

And try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement 和 nervous ticks such as shaking 您r leg or tapping 您r fingers against the table rapidly. 您'll seem worried or nervous 和 fidgeting can be a distracting when 您 try to get something across.

Declutter 您r movements if 您 are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down 和 focus 您r movements.

13. Use 您r hands more confidently.

与其用烦躁不安的手抓挠脸,不如用它们来交流您想说的话。用您的双手来形容某件事或增加您​​要提出的要点的权重。

But don't use them to much or it might become distracting. And don't let 您r hands flail around, use them with some control.

14. Lower 您r drink.

D不要将饮料放在胸前。实际上,请勿将任何东西摆在您的心前,因为它会使您显得警惕而遥远。放低它,然后将其放在腿旁。

15. Realize where 您 spine ends.

许多人(包括我在内,直到最近)都可能以良好的姿势坐直站立或站立。但是,他们可能会认为脊柱在脖子开始的地方结束,因此在蒙哥马利向前拉脖子 烧伤姿势.

您r spine ends in the back of 您r head. Keep 您 whole spine straight 和 aligned for better posture.

16.不要站得太近。

O我们从塞恩费尔德中学到的东西之一是,每个人都被一个近距离说话的人所迷惑。让人们拥有自己的个人空间,不要侵犯它。

17.镜子。

通常,当您与一个人相处时,当两个人建立良好的联系时,您将开始不自觉地互相镜像。这意味着您会稍微镜像对方的肢体语言。

To make the connection better 您 can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, 您 might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, 您 might do the same.

但不要立即做出反应,也不要反映出肢体语言的每一次变化。然后就会出现怪异。 :)

18.保持良好的态度。

最后但并非最不重要的一点 积极,开放和放松的态度. How 您 feel will come through in 您r body language 和 can make a major difference.

您可以更改自己的肢体语言,但是由于所有新习惯都需要一段时间。如果您花费了数千天的时间,尤其是抬头挺直的事情可能会花费一些时间来纠正。

And if 您 try 和 change to many things at once it might become confusing 和 feel overwhelming.

每天花几个这样的肢体语言工作三到四个星期。到那时,他们应该已经养成了新的习惯,而您甚至不必考虑它就会做些什么。

If not, keep on until it sticks. Then take another couple of things 您'd like to change 和 work on them.

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